The football team I follow has just won its first premiership after 50 years in the competition. There has been much rejoicing!
But this isn’t, primarily, a post about football, but about people who make mistakes, and the possibilities our culture allows for redemption and restoration.
The National Rugby League Grand Final
Last Sunday, the team I follow, the Cronulla Sharks, won their first ever premiership in a tough and frenetic game. Clearly the better team on the day, and leading for most of the game, they found themselves with about a quarter of an hour remaining, behind on the scoreboard and facing defeat. Their opponents, the Melbourne Storm, have a reputation as an extremely disciplined side, very difficult to score against when they get in front.
But the Sharks managed to score the winning try (note to US readers – Rugby League is a running game, with some similarities to American football, and a try is similar to a touchdown, except the player has to ground the ball, not just get it over the line) when one of the biggest men on the field managed to drive through 4 opponents, twist and get the ball down.
Try scorer Andrew Fifita was a hero to Sharks supporters, but a villain to many in Rugby League and in the press. Here’s the story …..
Andrew Fifita – a controversial figure
Andrew grew up and played junior football in western Sydney. His father left the family when Andrew was 6, and he started hanging around with people who were leading him into trouble. In a court appearance, a judge warned that unless he left Sydney, he would likely end up in gaol, so he finished his schooling in a country town. He subsequently returned to Sydney before beginning his first grade football career in 2010 with the Wests Tigers team. In 2012 he began playing with the Sharks.
He has been a controversial figure. Big, fast for his size, and skilful, Fifita has been a dominant player for the last few years, but has also been known to commit indiscretions on the field, giving away unnecessary penalties. At times his happy-go-lucky nature appears not to take the game seriously enough, but he seems popular with team mates. Off the field, he has been known to speak inadvisably.
Several off-the-field incidents soured his reputation. He was involved in a road rage incident in 2014, and in 2015 he and his footballing brother were suspended and fined for threatening a referee at a junior League match. After this he apparently attempted suicide and was subsequently treated for depression and a personality disorder, and this may help explain his enigmatic character.
Fifita has been at his best in 2016, in spite of what has become his most controversial action.
Back in 2012, Kieran Loveridge, an 18 year old from western Sydney, visited Sydney’s nightlife centre, Kings Cross, apparently drank too much, and went out and deliberately assaulted several random pedestrians without any provocation. One of these, 18 year old Thomas Kelly, struck his head as he fell after he was punched,and subsequently died. Kieran accepted a manslaughter charge and was jailed for more than 10 years. He became known in the media as a “one punch killer” or “one punch coward”.
Loveridge has since assaulted a fellow prisoner, and his cousin was jailed around the same time as Kieran for a stabbing murder. Clearly Kieran Loveridge has been a violent person, and appears to have been part of a violent culture.
It turns out that Fifita and Loveridge were friends, and Fifita coached a football team which included Loveridge at the time when he was charged and convicted.
Fifita kept in contact with Loveridge, visiting him at least once in gaol, and ringing him many times. For a few games he wore an armband during games with the letters FKL on it – which he said stood for “For Kieran Loveridge”. When challenged about it, Fifita said he did it to let Kieran know he wasn’t forgotten.
It was revealed that the police had spoken to Fifita about “consorting” with known criminals, which is an offence. Apparently Loveridge was believed to have connections with an outlaw motor cycle gang, and that was enough to justify the warning. The Rugby League said he would have to face an Integrity Commission hearing after the season was over.
The tabloid press had a field day (here, here and here), some calling for Fifita to be suspended by the Rugby League, and many commentators condemning his support for a notorious “one-punch killer”. Fifita responded by saying “I do not excuse what he has done – but I can’t turn my back on a mate”. At least two commentators supported him (here and here).
Fifita was said to be under increased pressure in the final matches of the season, and his club didn’t allow him to speak to the press. He responded with a match-winning performance in the grand final, running for a greater distance and breaking more tackles than any other player on the field, as well as scoring the winning try. But it still wasn’t enough for his media critics, and when the Australian squad was chosen for an upcoming series of matches, Fifita wasn’t considered (pending the outcome of the Integrity Commission hearing) although he was undoubtedly good enough.
Is redemption possible?
All this raises a few questions in my mind:
Kieran Loveridge initiated senseless violence that left a young man dead. His 10 year sentence is surely no more than he deserved – it was a terrible, senseless crime. But that isn’t the whole story.
He was 18 years old, when it is known that many boys haven’t yet developed those parts of their brains that exercise discretion. He is not the first young Aussie male to get drunk, or to punch someone. But his punch had far worse consequences than most.
And in ten years, he will presumably be released from gaol and will have to begin his life again. Will he still be stigmatised as the one-punch killer? Will he be able to head into life without that albatross around his neck? Will he have matured and so choose a different way? Or will he spiral into a life of crime and violence?
I can’t think that his future is helped by the way some newspapers have labelled him, especially since we can wonder whether they adopt this stance as a way of selling more papers. If we want to see him rehabilitated, the labelling has to stop sometime.
Jesus told us that God judges anger just as he judges murder (Matthew 5:21-22), and we christians need to take notice of his teachings when we make judgments about others. And of course, we are warned about judging others too harshly (Luke 6:37-38).
Is Andrew wrong to care for his friend? It is hard to think so, despite what some of the tabloid press has said.
The police are presumably justified in warning him about who he associates with, and the Rugby League is justified in examining the matter, but should Fifita be praised rather than condemned?
While Andrew is an enigma, he is reportedly a sincere Catholic and a good father to two daughters. He has both Australian Aboriginal and Tongan heritage, and both of these cultures place great value on family, so if Andrew sees Kieran as part of a wider "family", is that wrong? Could it possibly give Loveridge greater chances of being rehabilitated?
I don’t know much about both men, and I certainly don’t know the answers to all these questions.
But I think they are worth asking.
Picture: Still from NRL video
Congratulations on achieving your lifelong ambition to see your football team finally make it ! You must have thought it wouldn’t happen in your lifetime 🙂 (I had the same feelings about Parramatta and the Sydney Swans).
As to the essentials of your post, in my opinion the majority of support should go to the victim and their family who have lost a loved one to a senseless act. What has Fifita said about them ?
The perpetrator will do his time and may be rehabilitated, or maybe not we will see, but I don’t think he should be given any more publicity than he deserves which is none in my opinion. That includes from Fifita. He is quite entitled to visit his mate privately in gaol but if he publicises the case or the perpetrator then I think that the NRL could reasonably conclude that he is bringing the game into disrepute and that there are grounds to throw him out of the game. It’s his choice.
Thanks. Like all goals, once achieved, you then ask “So what? What next?”
Of course I agree about supporting the victim’s family, but I think slightly differently about Fifita. He didn’t ever make a public statement about any of this, just wore a cryptic wristband. If no-one else had publicised it, we wouldn’t have known. But once it was raised, he said he was sorry if it all going public caused the family any more pain.
I think the fault is with the newspapers, predominantly the Telegraph, much more than Fifita. They brought the game into disrepute more than Fifita did, in my opinion.
But these matters are very grey areas, which is why I asked questions more than making clear statements.
Fair points, I may add that no publicity at all would obviously help the perpetrator start from scratch rather than constantly being publicised as the “one punch killer”. I don’t think Fifita is doing his mate any favours by bringing attention to the case in any way whether intended or not.
Yes, I think a more subtle approach might have helped, but he tried to keep it reasonably quiet.
I certainly see your view that he is trying to do the Christian thing by ministering to the worst in society and helping them repent. If that is his motivation then good luck to him. Is publicity necessary or desirable for this ? Would it help if he can claim a convert and get him to guide others away from a lawless life ? Maybe.
As you say, a lot of grey areas.
You may have slightly overstated my view. I don’t necessarily think Fifita sees himself as doing a christian thing, though he may, I just think he wants to support a mate. But I think he should get some benefit of doubt, and not be painted black.
I agree with you that publicity doesn’t help him, but I don’t think he sought the publicity, it was thrust upon him.
Unfortunately the media will swoop on anything like a crow on a golf ball and blow it up out of all proportion. Well meaning people often don’t understand how their genuine motives will be distorted and turned against them. A lesson of modern life I guess.
Interesting story. Since I don’t follow rugby or Australian news at all (except for what I see in your page), I had not heard about it before.
The Fifita’s behavior is really interesting. Yes, it’s hard to know the true reasons in his heart for doing that, but, at least in the way you narrated it (I didn’t read the links or other sources) it seems to be a spontaneous thing. He may get some benefit – or handicap – from it, but it seems to be really a “bro code” or, even better, “Christian code”.
Using an expression that you like – doing something in a loving way – I think that Fifita got it right. The other pal was correctly punishment for his crime, Fifita seems to agree with the penalty but still be there for his friend. It’s a hard thing to do even more when you are a public person.
And for last, but not least, congratulation for your team!